A few weeks ago on this little ol’ blog of mine, I announced some pretty important and wonderful news! Catch up here if you missed it! My littles did a great job of helping us tell the world that we are expecting Baby # 3 on Valentine’s Day!
As you can probably imagine, we’ve been asked a lot of questions about the details surrounding this pregnancy, so I think the easiest way to go about this is to do a Question and Answer type of post. Here we go!
Q: When did you get your first positive pregnancy test?
A: The morning of Sunday, June 7th, 2015. I was home alone with the boys while Kevin was at church. (He’s a church organist on the side, if you didn’t know that!) Here’s a fun fact for you…Kevin has never been home a single time that I have tested and gotten positive results. It’s obviously never been planned that way – it’s just how it’s worked out!
Q: Why did you decide to test?
A: This is such a complicated question. It can also get a little personal, so if you don’t want to read about it, I’d go ahead and leave now. My cycles since having Luca have been a little longer than they were after having Jonah. I was approaching Day # 40 of my April/May cycle, and vowed I wouldn’t test until then because my previous cycle was exactly 40 days and I wasn’t pregnant, obviously. There was one pregnancy test left from the last time we bought them, and I just figured I would use it up to get rid of it sitting around. Well – the test line began to show immediately! In my pregnancies with the boys, my first test lines were so faint you could barely see them. This time, that definitely wasn’t the case!
Q: Were you trying?
A: Ahhh. An even MORE complicated question. Ha! Technically, NO. We weren’t actively trying. We were planning on waiting until Jonah started Kindergarten to have one or maybe even two more. I guess God had other plans! Although there were initial feelings of fear and disbelief, those feelings faded pretty quickly and we are so beyond excited to become a family of five!
Q: Who did you tell first?
A: I initially called my sisters via Facetime. They literally didn’t believe me at first until I showed them the test! Immediately after that, I called Kevin. I was freaking out, and he was so calm, as always. His exact response was, “That’s so great! I guess we have to get a van now!” So romantic. Haha! In his defense, we had been tossing around the idea of getting a van for a few months at this point. This sealed the deal, I suppose! The following week he was admitted to the hospital with a sever case of salmonella poisoning. It was a stressful first week of finding out we were expecting! Some of you probably remember that we found out we were expecting Luca while Jonah was hospitalized with RSV. For some reason, we find out about pregnancies around hospital visits. I don’t love that trend!
Q: Did you have betas drawn this time?
A: No, I didn’t. And it was torturous to be a “normal” patient. With Jonah, I was still under the care of my RE (reproductive endocrinologist) from Magee’s in Pittsburgh. They ordered betas to be drawn and I had to go back every 48 hours to get three draws in which the numbers were supposed to double each time. They did with Jonah! With Luca, my regular OB ordered betas “just because” we did them with Jonah. This time, they told me I wouldn’t need them since I’ve had two healthy pregnancies.
I didn’t know it at the time, but the day I got my first positive pregnancy test I was exactly 4 weeks along. I was told I’d have a dating ultrasound on July 1st. That day, I found out I was 7 weeks 3 days. The wait for that appointment was excruciating! During those first few weeks it’s way too early to hear a heartbeat at home, so you have no idea what’s going on inside! The day of our first ultrasound we saw our sweet little gummy bear and the most amazing sight: a flickering heartbeat. I cried. It doesn’t matter how many times you have a baby, each one is precious and unique in it’s own way. Our bodies are so amazing. LIFE is so amazing.
Q: How did you feel those first few weeks?
A: Unlike the boys’ pregnancies, I was sick this time around. Thankfully I never threw up, but I had constant nausea. I’m talking ALL day EVERY day for the first 12 or so weeks. We had to leave stores a few times because the smell of the groceries (or the sight of raw meat) made me run away gagging. I was also SO tired (and still am) but that could because I’m chasing TWO little ones around this time!
Q: How did you tell your parents?
A: Kevin’s parents found out while he was in the hospital. One day while getting my things together to go up and spend the day with Kevin at his bedside, I broke down and started crying and blurted out, “I’m sorry I’m so emotional! I’m worried about Kevin and I’m pregnant!” Haha. Looking back on it now, I have to chuckle – but it definitely wasn’t funny in the moment. I was so scared for Kevin! Kev ended up being in the hospital for four days. On my drive up one of those days, I blurted it out to my mom on the phone. To tell my Dad and Bonnie, I signed his Father’s Day card “Love, Bre, Kevin, Jonah, Luca, and Grandbaby # 3!” Their reactions were priceless!
Q: Are you going to do weekly blog updates this time around?
A: The truth is, I’ve been seriously slacking on my blog lately. Between being a wife and mom, getting ready to go back to school, and being absolutely swamped (which is a good thing) with photo sessions – blogging has taken the back seat for a while. I had originally planned on doing monthly updates this time, but that obviously hasn’t happened yet. I’m taking bump pictures every two weeks this time around, so I’m still documenting this pregnancy in all it’s glory! I’m so blessed to be able to carry another life in me again!
Q: Are you finding out this baby’s sex?
A: I am 100% okay with being Team Green this time around. I don’t have strong feelings toward either stance, but I would be okay with not finding out. For some reason my will power is pretty strong this time around. I also feel 100% sure that it’s a boy, so there’s no reason to find out ahead of time. I’ll just plan on it being a boy, and we’re good to go. We already have everything we need.
Kevin, on the other hand, feels like it’s a girl and is NOT happy with waiting. He REALLY wants to find out so we can be prepared to welcome the opposite sex. We may end up finding out, but we still have a few weeks to decide!
Q: Are you hoping for a girl?
A: I get asked this question a lot. The truth is, having a daughter has seriously been a dream of mine since I was a little girl. I always dreamed I’d have three daughters, because I was one of three girls. It’s all I knew. I absolutely ADORE my boys. I love them more than anything, and I wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world. I’m already over the moon to be blessed with another child, and although having a girl would completely send me straight to Cloud 9, so would having another little boy. It’s all in God’s hands – not mine!
I had a dream just the other night that the doctor called to tell us we were having a baby girl, and our family was over at our house at the time. When I hung up the phone, I started crying so hard (tears of happiness) that I couldn’t even TELL Kevin or our families what the doctor said through the tears. I woke immediately after that and must have REALLY been crying, because my pillow was soaked and so was my face. Maybe it’s a sign, and maybe it isn’t. My gut instinct is that it’s a boy, while Kevin’s is that it’s a girl. Kevin also thought Luca was a girl though, and that obviously wasn’t the case!
Q: Will you have more children?
A: Kevin and I have always talked about having 4 children. In a perfect world, we would have two boys and two girls. We’ve tossed around the idea of being done if this one is a girl. Having Gestational Diabetes all three times is really scary, and I go on a strict diet (which I would do over and over again in a heartbeat). I just worry about our babies’ health with having it each pregnancy. For some reason, my body doesn’t handle the hormones that come with pregnancy very well. I’ve had my A1C tested, and it’s great, and I’ve also been tested after each pregnancy and the diabetes goes away. It’s a very worry-filled 40 weeks regardless, but having the extra worry of GD is something I don’t love. Thankfully both Jonah and Luca were born extremely healthy with no problems. I just worry that our luck will eventually run out. I’m already being monitored by the doctors at Magee’s in Pittsburgh and they do a wonderful job. I’m always so thankful to have extra eyes watching over me and the baby!
If we do decide to have a 4th, it will DEFINITELY be well after Jonah is in Kindergarten. It also HAS to be when we move to a bigger house, because I already don’t know how we’re going to fit three in our tiny one bedroom house! (One bedroom because our room has a closet, but the boys’ room does not have a closet. There are currently four dressers lining the wall of our bedroom upstairs, just so we have enough space to store our things and the kids’ clothes.) We are already so cramped, and although our little house was perfect when it was just Kevin and me, it definitely isn’t family friendly…and our family is growing!
Q: Will you have another c-section?
A: Honestly, I don’t know yet. One of my very first concerns in finding out I was pregnant again was that I had a c-section not even a year prior. We found out we were expecting again when Luca had just turned 7 months old. At my first ultrasound, the tech checked my scar and luckily the baby implanted pretty far away from my scar, which I was told is a good thing. It’s really going to depend on how this pregnancy progresses and how big this baby gets. Luca was 9 pounds 2 ounces, and we decided on a c-section due to needing vacuum assistance with a 7 pound 13 ounce Jonah. I don’t for a second regret that decision. My experience was extremely positive and recovery was a breeze compared to other stories I’ve heard. If this baby is measuring big again, and the doctor’s feel that a VBAC would be too risky, I’m all about a c-section. On the other hand, if baby is measuring on the smaller side, and my previous scar is looking good – I’m all about a VBAC. We won’t really decide what’s best until the last month of pregnancy.
Phew! I think that about covers all the questions we’ve been asked the past few months! Do you have another question? Leave it in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to respond!